I’d been given some sage advice recently (maybe a half hour ago). A friend told me that “the best way to get over someone is to start seeing someone new”, and in his times of romantic hardship it’s certainly worked, but he and I are different people.
I’ve never once been in a relationship where I didn’t fall recklessly in love with the other person, and in the one time that I didn’t really like the person who I fell in love with it ended in some really hurt feelings, for both of us.
I’ve been given a lot of opportunities to date people recently*, but I haven’t been crazy about anyone I’ve met so far. Mostly they are really nice people, but I can’t see myself in a healthy long-term relationship with any of them.
Should I throw myself out there to cut the pain and try not to fall in love, or be sad until I find someone who I could be happy with?
* I’ve been asked out twice since my last serious relationship ended. I told them both that I had just split up with someone that I really cared about and didn’t want to be with anyone right now. As it turns out, that is a great excuse for turning someone down. Besides that, it seems like half the people who I meet are flirting with me in really obvious ways. Asking questions durring lectures makes people think you a genius apparently.